"Life is full of choices and once you realize you are the only author to your story, that’s what LIVing is all about! -Matt CEO & Founder " 😂
Edited to add:
A story is being written, indeed.
Another FB post (Nov 25, 2019) reads, in full:
"In life you need to know when to pick your battles. Always way the pros and cons of the situation. Your energy is precious. Choose how and when to use it. Some fights are more worthy than others. When you find something worth fighting for, give it everything you got!
#WordsToLIVby" 😂
He has picked his battle.
Last wise words in video were: Suck dick and fuck off! 😂
I can't wait to hear the part II of how the face to face conversation goes. You should start it by saying "we come in peace" lol. Sorry I can't help but be a little petty sometimes.
Good job keeping your cool big homie. Welcome back. The East Coast missed you
As the mom to a doberman, I love this essay for recognizing how much this breed is so wonderful and how they are wired to be on alert while diving into entitled brats who have swarmed NYC. These days, narcs abound with no consideration for others. Thank you for calling it out.
I’m loving this! These people can’t get enough of themselves. You handled all of this so perfectly. The “we come in peace” stuff is particularly gross. At least you can identify Matt Sauerhoff (or whatever his name is, is fully raging out), his MIL is so much more sinister. “He’s a judge,” indeed. That’s some nasty business.
Also, who here is living under Daddy’s roof? 😂
You know this shit’s permanently top google listing for his name from now on. 😀
I am a Mom to a Working Dog Mutt and I deal with this “how dare you ask me to put my dog on a leash” shit on the regular. I am starting to think there is an Off Leash Ken and Karen Club where these ppl get together to plan to harass us.
My dog’s veterinarian recommended that I carry PetSafe Spray Shield with citronella to spray at the dogs whose owners are too stupid to keep their dogs safe from mine. The citronella isn’t harmful to anyone-it just stuns the offending dog long enough for you to GTFO of the situation. I got it on Chewy.
My heart goes out to you & yours. I can’t imagine how stressful the constant moves have been, especially for Mr. Chow. He is gorgeous BTW.
In a state of flux - you’ve relocated the family away from a precarious situation, had to deal with an unregistered hire car and now a self entitled neighbour. That’s the 3 of the year - I hope the rest of the snake year treat you right.
I loved this essay. Thank you so much for sharing. I wish people would understand that "my dog is really chill and he listens" doesn't help if they've just approached a dog who's reactive on leash or who's really stressed and would snap or bite if pushed far enough. I tried to tell someone once that me asking them to leash their dog wasn't for my dog's sake it was for theirs. I don't understand why that's so hard respect?
I have experienced both sides of this. Not proud of it, but years ago when my now wife and I first got together, we'd walk her dog (Larry) off leash because myopically figured "he was fine". Embarrassing in hindsight. Even though we knew he wasn't dangerous, obviously no one else knew that ex-ante. They just saw a big-ish black dog running up on their leashed dogs.
Completely flipped the script when we moved to our house and adopted a 4yr old (likely abused) Australian cattle dog, Laika. Quickly realized she was scared shitless of everything that wasn't us and our home, and that fear manifested in aggression and biting. Even in our own yard now she has to be on a leash for her own and everyone else's safety. If we do walk her, she's muzzled and we go out of our way to avoid other dogs and people. I cannot believe we ever walked our other dog off leash now living it from the other side.
I won't get into all the details, but we've had 4+ years of escalating issues with our neighbor's dogs getting loose in our neighborhood. They're in our yard regularly. Acting as the aggressors -- biting our leashed dog, nipping at my wife, shitting in our yard, coming up to our back door and barking (we're on two acres). It's so frustrating dealing with people who don't share the same sense of personal accountability.
Not even losing a dog (great dane!) for six weeks in winter only for it to be found dead and still wam one property over brought them religion. They adopted three more the next month.
Plying with drinks (turns out we were the marks), negotiating, even escalating have been toothless. Aside from winter, embarrassment has been the only lasting deterrent. Watching a 50 year old man fumble around in our backyard chasing after an untrained, unleashed dog is a partial panacea. Like Rocky struggling to find his feet against the chicken... but the Rocky VI vintage.
Not sure what the point of my novel is other than I felt this deeply.
I get that this is far from the main part of the story but I can't stop thinking about the come in peace/my husband's a judge interaction. If he was in earshot is it not a breach of ethics for letting her do that and not correcting the facts?
It definitely doesn't seem to be 'demonstrating respect for the legal system' - which is literally in the first paragraph of the 'Lawyer's Responsibility' in the Rules of Professional Conduct, and probably is in violation of other rules about representation/conduct too (not an NY attorney so I might be way off).
anyway, it's incredible to read you held your cool through this but shitty you had to go through it.
Yeah. Personally, I feel the most egregious part of this whole incident is his behavior allowing the mother-in-law to make a threat using his "stature". It's the type of thing that ruins societies.
maybe he thought that would work when the gym logo didn't.
par for the course for an exchange where one side reeks of entitlement, basic lack of consideration for other people and disrespect and the other has kept (remarkably) calm and cool the entire time.
I first became aware of you when I came across your interview with Jared Taylor. I liked it so much that I posted it on my TikTok — though I didn’t really investigate further at the time. I do remember really appreciating the way you handled the interview and meal sharing. When I later came across the video about the dog, I didn’t realize it was you as well. I also had no idea you were such an accomplished author, chef, restaurateur, and attorney.
I was really outraged by the way you were spoken to before I knew who the “you” was. Even though many creators push for Substack for deeper content, I was never tempted until today — and I’m so glad I did.
I was gearing up to rage-post about Matt on any platform I could find, hoping to take a swipe at his privileged, entitled behavior. But after reading your musings on cancel culture, I now find myself debating whether I can be as thoughtful as Mr. Huang in his analysis and measured approach. You have an incredible ability to stay calm and composed, even in the most heated situations. It’s truly impressive how you handle pressure without losing your cool — a real testament to your strength and self-control.
I’m still on the fence, but I loved learning about Mr. Chow. I also had a dog who was very particular, and I was super protective because I knew she’d be blamed in any altercation. It always shocked me that even when I told people she wasn’t friendly, they’d insist on petting her anyway.
Last line of his LinkedIn About Me: “My goal in life is to leave a positive, lasting impression on every single person I meet.” Keep at it, I guess?
maybe it's like a 5 year plan?
Last line of a Facebook post for LIV Method is:
"Life is full of choices and once you realize you are the only author to your story, that’s what LIVing is all about! -Matt CEO & Founder " 😂
Edited to add:
A story is being written, indeed.
Another FB post (Nov 25, 2019) reads, in full:
"In life you need to know when to pick your battles. Always way the pros and cons of the situation. Your energy is precious. Choose how and when to use it. Some fights are more worthy than others. When you find something worth fighting for, give it everything you got!
#WordsToLIVby" 😂
He has picked his battle.
Last wise words in video were: Suck dick and fuck off! 😂
Has he regressed....?
I can't wait to hear the part II of how the face to face conversation goes. You should start it by saying "we come in peace" lol. Sorry I can't help but be a little petty sometimes.
Good job keeping your cool big homie. Welcome back. The East Coast missed you
😭😭😭
He is not going to apologize unless he is shamed or his wallet is affected. That's how he communicates. We saw the real him.
"when I was a Chinese guy delivering Chinese food I got to see who people really were. " 👏 ok mic droppp
Matt had the leash the whole time. Why carry the leash if you aren't going to use it?? Matt should leash his ego as well.
That was the craziest part! He had the leash!
Because he thought it would mak a difference, in case he might need to show face. BUT he didn’t feel as though our man even deserved the ruse!
I created a substack account just so I can heart this.
🤝
As the mom to a doberman, I love this essay for recognizing how much this breed is so wonderful and how they are wired to be on alert while diving into entitled brats who have swarmed NYC. These days, narcs abound with no consideration for others. Thank you for calling it out.
I’m loving this! These people can’t get enough of themselves. You handled all of this so perfectly. The “we come in peace” stuff is particularly gross. At least you can identify Matt Sauerhoff (or whatever his name is, is fully raging out), his MIL is so much more sinister. “He’s a judge,” indeed. That’s some nasty business.
Also, who here is living under Daddy’s roof? 😂
You know this shit’s permanently top google listing for his name from now on. 😀
I am a Mom to a Working Dog Mutt and I deal with this “how dare you ask me to put my dog on a leash” shit on the regular. I am starting to think there is an Off Leash Ken and Karen Club where these ppl get together to plan to harass us.
My dog’s veterinarian recommended that I carry PetSafe Spray Shield with citronella to spray at the dogs whose owners are too stupid to keep their dogs safe from mine. The citronella isn’t harmful to anyone-it just stuns the offending dog long enough for you to GTFO of the situation. I got it on Chewy.
My heart goes out to you & yours. I can’t imagine how stressful the constant moves have been, especially for Mr. Chow. He is gorgeous BTW.
In a state of flux - you’ve relocated the family away from a precarious situation, had to deal with an unregistered hire car and now a self entitled neighbour. That’s the 3 of the year - I hope the rest of the snake year treat you right.
Stay strong 哥！
I need a break 😭
🙏🙏🙏
I loved this essay. Thank you so much for sharing. I wish people would understand that "my dog is really chill and he listens" doesn't help if they've just approached a dog who's reactive on leash or who's really stressed and would snap or bite if pushed far enough. I tried to tell someone once that me asking them to leash their dog wasn't for my dog's sake it was for theirs. I don't understand why that's so hard respect?
PS. been a fan since reading Fresh off the boat in 2013 and eating at Baohaus. I'm so thrilled you're on substack and I'm excited to keep reading!
When do we get a “we come in peace” x Mr Chow T-shirt drop?
😭😭
maybe something to work out in or throw on for a dog walk
Branded leash
I heard of a great gym to go to for that work out…
Sorry you've gone through this.
I have experienced both sides of this. Not proud of it, but years ago when my now wife and I first got together, we'd walk her dog (Larry) off leash because myopically figured "he was fine". Embarrassing in hindsight. Even though we knew he wasn't dangerous, obviously no one else knew that ex-ante. They just saw a big-ish black dog running up on their leashed dogs.
Completely flipped the script when we moved to our house and adopted a 4yr old (likely abused) Australian cattle dog, Laika. Quickly realized she was scared shitless of everything that wasn't us and our home, and that fear manifested in aggression and biting. Even in our own yard now she has to be on a leash for her own and everyone else's safety. If we do walk her, she's muzzled and we go out of our way to avoid other dogs and people. I cannot believe we ever walked our other dog off leash now living it from the other side.
I won't get into all the details, but we've had 4+ years of escalating issues with our neighbor's dogs getting loose in our neighborhood. They're in our yard regularly. Acting as the aggressors -- biting our leashed dog, nipping at my wife, shitting in our yard, coming up to our back door and barking (we're on two acres). It's so frustrating dealing with people who don't share the same sense of personal accountability.
Not even losing a dog (great dane!) for six weeks in winter only for it to be found dead and still wam one property over brought them religion. They adopted three more the next month.
Plying with drinks (turns out we were the marks), negotiating, even escalating have been toothless. Aside from winter, embarrassment has been the only lasting deterrent. Watching a 50 year old man fumble around in our backyard chasing after an untrained, unleashed dog is a partial panacea. Like Rocky struggling to find his feet against the chicken... but the Rocky VI vintage.
Not sure what the point of my novel is other than I felt this deeply.
“we come in peace” made my stomach turn…im glad you’re able to practice such patience with pendejos like these man, more power to you
I get that this is far from the main part of the story but I can't stop thinking about the come in peace/my husband's a judge interaction. If he was in earshot is it not a breach of ethics for letting her do that and not correcting the facts?
It definitely doesn't seem to be 'demonstrating respect for the legal system' - which is literally in the first paragraph of the 'Lawyer's Responsibility' in the Rules of Professional Conduct, and probably is in violation of other rules about representation/conduct too (not an NY attorney so I might be way off).
anyway, it's incredible to read you held your cool through this but shitty you had to go through it.
Yeah. Personally, I feel the most egregious part of this whole incident is his behavior allowing the mother-in-law to make a threat using his "stature". It's the type of thing that ruins societies.
maybe he thought that would work when the gym logo didn't.
par for the course for an exchange where one side reeks of entitlement, basic lack of consideration for other people and disrespect and the other has kept (remarkably) calm and cool the entire time.
The gym logo LOL 😂
Reading the part from the in-laws visiting you. Isn't impersonating a judge at all a crime? I’m pretty sure she committed fraud if I’m not mistaken.
I first became aware of you when I came across your interview with Jared Taylor. I liked it so much that I posted it on my TikTok — though I didn’t really investigate further at the time. I do remember really appreciating the way you handled the interview and meal sharing. When I later came across the video about the dog, I didn’t realize it was you as well. I also had no idea you were such an accomplished author, chef, restaurateur, and attorney.
I was really outraged by the way you were spoken to before I knew who the “you” was. Even though many creators push for Substack for deeper content, I was never tempted until today — and I’m so glad I did.
I was gearing up to rage-post about Matt on any platform I could find, hoping to take a swipe at his privileged, entitled behavior. But after reading your musings on cancel culture, I now find myself debating whether I can be as thoughtful as Mr. Huang in his analysis and measured approach. You have an incredible ability to stay calm and composed, even in the most heated situations. It’s truly impressive how you handle pressure without losing your cool — a real testament to your strength and self-control.
I’m still on the fence, but I loved learning about Mr. Chow. I also had a dog who was very particular, and I was super protective because I knew she’d be blamed in any altercation. It always shocked me that even when I told people she wasn’t friendly, they’d insist on petting her anyway.
But clearly, I’ve written way too much.
With much admiration,
Dedee
Thank you Dedee. Needed this.
Between this and handling the Turo experience with grace I'm over here slow clapping and shouting, "Eddie Huang 4 President" in the library.
💘